Now that you're here, this is a really important subject. Let's be honest, at times we ladies just need a bit of lubrication before we are ready to rock and roll in the sack. Nothing wrong with that. This need can be based just as much on where we are in our monthly cycle as anything else, as during ovulation the body is trying to get pregnant and so provides a slip'n'slide a bit more readily, but at other times pre- and post-ovulation, dryness can be more normal. This is often simply related to levels of estrogen, which is why many women nearer to or during menopause can experience dryness. It's a part of life.
So what do you do about it? No! Don't reach for the KY!
Why not? It's filled with grossness which you (I hope, by now) wouldn't even put on your face. Most commercial lubricants are petroleum based products, derived originally from crude oil, which while "natural" in essence must be refined and refined, and then to form different products have various synthetics added as well. The resulting personal lubes really aren't good for your skin in general, and they are even worse for application to a delicate, sensitive, internal part of a woman's body. When you use a personal lubricant, it is given entry right to the inside of a woman, to her uterus if she is near ovulation. Even for the people who don't have an allergic skin reaction to petroleum based products, basically contact dermatitis in a rather uncomfortable place, the seemingly harmless use of these lubes can cause or contribute to a host of problems. Besides the obvious discomforts of increased candida and decreased healthy vaginal flora, the one that stands out most to me? Nerve degeneration.
Hey, wait a minute! So my personal lube, that I use because I'm feeling a little dry or maybe want some extra sensitivity, could actually be causing or worsening my dryness and lack of sensitivity?!
You've got it, babe.
You've got it, babe.
But I can't leave you hanging. There are alternatives! Oh, yes. There are fun, cheap alternatives that you can personalize to your own special needs.
Coconut oil leaves very little residue on fabrics, too, and washes out easily leaving hardly any staining. Oil stains lasting through a wash can often be removed by applying powdered white chalk (crush up some standard teacher's chalk sticks) to the area and running through the wash again after 5 or so minutes.
You can also add vitamin E oil or primrose oil to any oil based lube, for extra healing power. You can also use any basic salve (oil thickened with beeswax) as a lubricant.
Ah, but oils are not latex-safe! So if you rely on condoms for birth control, you can switch over to a latex-free (polyurethane) brand, or you can get adventurous and try one of these following suggestions.
What other remedies have you tried or created as safer alternatives to petroleum-based personal lubrication products?
**Note: I realized, belatedly, that I finished and posted this article on April 1st. I promise, most heartily, that none of this info was a Fool's Day joke, and all are legitimate tips and recipes! :)